What is your Why?
This is the question you should ask yourself whenever you face difficult situations, rather than focusing on why people acted a certain way toward you? Instead of asking, “Why did they do this to me?” shift your perspective and ask, “Why did this happen, and what lessons can I learn from it?”
When you focus on *your* why, it transforms how you see the situation. It moves you from feeling like a victim of someone else’s actions to someone who can extract meaning and growth from even those bitter experiences.
This shift in perspective will help you inshaAllah to stop dwelling on the actions of others and start understanding the purpose or lessons behind what you’re going through. For example, if someone vents their anger at you, instead of simply feeling hurt or angry in return, ask yourself why this happened and what it can teach you? Did it reveal something about their state of mind, your relationship, or your own emotional triggers? Did it help you become more patient, understanding, or resilient?
Asking *what is your why* not only shifts your focus from external blame to internal reflection, but it also empowers you to look for meaning and growth in every experience. It encourages you to step back, reflect, and find ways to grow stronger and wiser from each challenge you encounter. So, next time. Anything happens, just ask yourself What is your Why? Learn, Unlearn, Learn again and elevate your ranks in Allah’s sight by exploring the Why’s.